What to tell your kids when they are bullied!

My nephew was recently picked on and called names that hurt his feelings and he cried. He is 8 years old. His mom posts reads: Breaks my heart when kids pick on my son. He is such a sensitive boy and words do hurt. Bless his heart, he told me (with big crocodile tears in his eyes), “Mommy, why do kids pick on me? I just don’t understand?” “ Lord, please help me to know what to say in moments like that.”

One person commented with sad and mad emojis. Then I commented: Say because they are jealous of all the wonderful gifts God gave you. Words do hurt, but know that God made you special! You are like no one else. Forgive them the way God forgives us. Ask God to protect your feelings and comfort you heart when this happens. Your dad and I love you very much and we are always here to listen.

What you must know is that these are God’s words. They come from me knowing him personally. I never said this to my kids. I just hugged them, told them to ignore what is being said and get over it. I wish I would have told my little kids this. I wish I was a teacher when they were small and had a relationship with God then. I would’ve told them this, in this loving way. But I can’t go back to that time; I can only learn and move forward. I can only tell you what to say and how I am able to say what He wants his little children to hear.

We protect by what we say and do. Let them hear your protection over their lives. Let them see how much you love them. Help them to know what to do in all situations. Answer their questions as they arise, keeping their age in mind. Hug them, praise them, tell them you love them, play with them, pray for them and with them, keep them close for as long as you can. This teaches them to be independent, loving, caring, respectful, generous parents when they grow up.

You can always make it right with them. It’s never too late! They are never too old and never too far away. Do it today!

Psalm 91:14-16 NIV

“Because he loves me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledged my name. He will call on me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him. With long life I will satisfy him and show him my salvation.”

A Big Thank You!

I want to say a BIG THANK YOU to the 1,860 people that follow my blog!  WOW!  I am very blessed that you would invite me into your emails every time I post a new blog!  I pray that my words help you, encourage you, love on you and bring you joy.  I pray that you are finding what you are seeking and you are encouraging and loving others with what you have found here.

I pray that others will find me and also feel helped, encouraged, loved on and find joy.  I pray that you will find God’s love here on this page and it will cause you to want a relationship with him, too.  I pray that something I say, do, feel will penetrate your heart and you will share it with others.

Thank you for your support and encouragement!  It is greatly appreciated!

Procrastination will be the Death of Me!

I have always been the one to wait until the last minute to do things. Over the years, I have gotten better but not perfect. For 2 days, I have sat on my bed in my room on the computer watching and listening to webinars; one for my school, one for NC Pre-K Teachers and 15+ for Chick-Fil-A (part-time job).

As I rolled my eyes about how many I had to do, I want you to know that I had plenty of time to get these done. I was told ahead of time what needed to be done, but I am not great with time management when it comes to webinars. Plus, I seem to work better on a deadline because I can focus on just what needs to get done.

A funny/not so funny story:

Last night, I only finished the webinar for NC Pre-K Teachers (It was really long) and worked on some of the Chick-Fil-A ones. Sweating bullets, I was trying not to think about all I needed to do today when I got home from school. Well, when I got to school this morning, the school was dark inside looking in from the outside. One of the teachers said that we had no power; something about a house fire and a traffic light exploding. All the teachers were inside chillin’ and waiting to see if the power was coming back on. Some teachers were telling parents that students could not be dropped off. After about 9:00am, my director told me to go home.

Wow! A bad situation turned into a great situation for me. I went home and completed all the webinars (it took the WHOLE day), but they are completed and I got to write you a blog about it. I don’t believe in luck, I believe in God. I do believe he was looking out for me even though the situation that brought me to stay home today was not a great one for someone else. I know He loves me and He knows all about my procrastination problem. He’s still working on me!

Lesson learned: Don’t wait until the last minute to get things done. Schedule time to sit and do what needs to be done, even if it is for a little while. Know that learning takes time and practice helps to get it right. You are not alone and are not the only one who does it. Most importantly, know that God loves you no matter what your bad habit is and if you let Him, He will work on it with you to make it better.

My friends, we are wonderfully and beautifully made, not perfectly made. Only God is perfect! He created you special like no one else and He loves you just the way you are. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Find the JOY (he gives you) and the WISDOM (he gives you) in your situation to move forward and thank Him for these special gifts. He is your Heavenly Father and He wants to give you good gifts because He loves you!

 Matthew 7:11-12 NIV

If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him! So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.

 

“I Get To” turns to Pure Joy!

“I get to” turned to pure joy today! Let me explain! A couple of weeks ago, my mom called and needed me to take her and my dad to do their monthly shopping. I had a previous engagement with my life group and had to cancel.   I told them” I had to” take them because their other ride could not. After reflecting on what I said, I decided that I needed to change my perspective on how I view and say things. I decided to change, “I have to” to “I get to”.

“I get to” spend time with both my parents anytime I want. “ I get to” love on little ones at school and teach them life skills that they will carry with them throughout their entire lives. “ I get to” show them Jesus and show them how to love others. “ I get to” work at Chick-fil-a where I get to love on customers and serve my community through conversations and smiles. (Yes I work two wonderful jobs). “ I get to” be an author and write feel good stories for children for all ages to enjoy. “I get to” go into public schools and share my knowledge of being an author. “ I get to” share these stories with children all over the world through mission trips and Operation Christmas Child. “ I get to” attend a loving church whose generosity for others serves as a core value. “ I get to” serve little ones on Sundays and greet others as they enter the building. “ I get to” go to jobs where I feel like part of a family and where everyone supports each other and where hugs are respected and optional. “ I get to” live with my children who still need me and want to spend time with me. “ I get to” help raise my wonderful grandson who loves Jesus and thinks I’m the greatest.” “I get to” have Christian friends who love me for me and my not normalness; who support me through prayer and laughter. “I get to” love and be loved my Heavenly Father who knows and wants to plan my life and give me good gifts. “ I get to” surrender my life to him so that he can change me and use me to help and serve others. “I get to”. “ I get to” do a lot of things. I am blessed!

Pure Joy! In our life group each person chooses a word, Joy was mine this year. I prayed about it and it just felt right. All year, I’ve waited for joy. Trying to find joy in many situations, problems, storms, happy endings, etc., but nothing. Pure joy happened when I realized that my” I get to” was a surrender of obedience to God! I immediately felt True FREEDOM and Pure Joy! I cried singing a song of freedom! I cried knowing that God made my life complete. That He had orchestrated every moment of my life to get me here; to this moment in time. He opened my eyes of why I was called to be His author, the word and feelings He needs His children to hear and feel. “ I get to” serve others through serving Him.

I love listening to God’s voice. He has some really good ideas for my books, my family, my friends, my entire plan of action, My Life! He is good! He’s a good father! “ I get to” know Him and love Him and be with Him in heaven some day! Let Him love you and love Him back. It will bring you Joy when” you get to!”

If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him! Matthew 7:11 NIV

You make known to me the path of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence, with eternal pleasures at your right hand. Psalm 16:11 NIV